Thursday, October 15, 2009

不要错放了幸福温暖的手

I get this blog from my friend...he asked me read it becoz quite meaningfull & touching as well. so i post it here to share it...HAVE A LOOK ON IT..........


往往许多人在抉择伴侣时,容易东想西想,不知所措,就是因为害怕一时做错 决定,看错人,造成终生的遗憾。
诺贝尔文学奖得主萧伯纳说:“此时此刻在地球上,约有两万个人适合当你的人生伴侣,就看你先遇到哪一个, 如果在第二个理想伴侣出现之前,你已经跟前一个人发展出相知相惜、互相信 赖的深层关系,那后者就会变成你的好朋友,但是若你跟前一个人没有培养出深层关系,感情就容易动摇、变心,直到你与 这些理想伴侣候选人的其中一位拥有稳固的深情,才是幸福的开始,漂泊的结束。
爱上一个人不需要靠努力,只需要靠“际遇”,是上天的安排,但是“持续地爱一 个人”就要靠“努力”, 在爱情的经营中,顺畅运转的要素就是沟通、体谅、包容自制 (面临诱惑有 所自制)。有许多人总是?
“际遇”所迷惑与苦恼,意念不停、欲念不断、争逐不散,而忘了培养经营感情 的能力才是幸福的关键。
所以不要去追问到底谁才是我的Mr.Right,而是n问说在眼前的伴侣关系中,我 能努力到什么程度、成长到什么程度, 若没有培养出经营幸福的能力,就算真的Mr.Right出现在你身边,幸福依然会 错过的,而活在犹疑与遗憾当中,这不就是许多“爱情虚无症”的遭遇与心态吗?
若你此刻已有一位长久相伴的伴侣,不要再随便三心二意地犹疑了,我们往往 不易察觉感情中的一个陷阱, 就是“近亲生慢侮”,也就是经济学中的铁律“边际效益递减法则”,跟你在一起越久的人,就越容易麻木与忽视,而新鲜的“际遇”总是那么动人可爱。
在感情对待中,难免有摩擦与无心的伤害,而且论得罪自己的次数累加起来最多的人,当然是跟我们在一起最久、最亲近的人。而新欢呢,又还没开始有得罪你的机会,再加上他的刻意讨好,所以新欢怎么看怎么可爱,旧爱怎么看怎么讨厌。但别忘了,新欢身上总是有 不确定的未知数,旧爱身上就是有难得的熟悉感、确定感、信赖感。千万不要随便在偶然的“际 遇”中迷失了自己,错放了幸福温暖的手。
所以萧伯纳的话,是要提醒情人不要太钻牛角尖于寻觅那唯一,应该把精神用在学会经营幸福的能力上,同时也提醒我们“弱水三千只取一瓢饮”若有幸遇到了难得的伴侣,就不要再三 心二意了, 因为我们永远不知道一生何时会遇到两万个其中的几个,所以要知福惜福、活在当下。

Sunday, October 4, 2009

Sem Break session one

Finally can start my blog. now only i realize that i came back to hometown for one week. huh!!! so so so boring holiday. i just stay at home in this whole week except thrusday and saturday.

Thrusday activity:
1st session:
last Thursday just have dinner with my classmates at TAO which located at Auto City. the buffet dinner cost me rm55 from 8.15pm - 10.30pm but yet the food was delicious..yummy yummy. Those pictures are with my friends so cannot upload yet. there was a funny small case happened during buffet time. one of the waiter want to know my classmate's friend. she suddenly walk near me and talk softly near my ears that she asked me tell the guy who is my classmate's friend that she want to take a picture with him and then walk away . i really get shock with what she asked me do so. my green tea almost spurt out from my mouth and just keep on snigger. both of my classmates and the guy ( i forgot his name) feel weird with my action. then one of my classmate (euchin) give me an eyes signal ( izzit she wanna know him?) then i reply her ( yea yea) with snigger. haha..both of us sometime good in eyes contact so understand the signal. about 10.15pm we finished our buffet dinner. the waiter really ask my classmate tell the guy that she want to take picture with him but that time i was away. haha...so funny..finally she took picture with him. i heard from my classmate that the waiter seem like want the guy contact number but he purposely walk away. this is the 1st session at auto city.

2nd session:
After buffet dinner i shift to OLDTOWN meet up with my another friend. then yamcha with his friends. his friends really funny. one of his friend name as Cornnie, quite a pretty girl. she show out a picture that a paper fold in a shape that i dont know how to desribe ( got few square with stand-up). she tested my friend until she cannot stand with my friend not giving up spirit because she wanna show the way but my friend keep on refuse that he said wanna try. this process take about 15minutes until my friend give up. Corrnie show us the way to fold the paper. haha...make us headache. only a few step then make it d. she then ask us combine al the 9 dot with only 4 steps. huh..this pretty girl really test our IQ but we really failed to complete the IQ test...haha...we dont have enough high IQ. she then show us the way after saw us headache with the 9 dots. really sweat!!! so so easy to combine the dots with 4 steps. just draw out a triangle and a line then complete combinded the 9 dots d. about 1am i end up my yamcha time d then drive back to home which need about 20minutes journey to reach my home. hehehe...this is how i spent my Thrusday night.

Saturday activity:
Saturday not so interesting anymore. 10am depart from home to penang island to meet doctor appointment. then went to pet shop to buy my youngest sister's puppy shampoo and conditioner. erm...can say that the pet shop like a supermarket which got 3levels. ground floor is for selling pet's equipments and also differents kind of animals as pet ( puppy,snake,bird,fish and...). 2nd level, like a aquarium show room. 3rd level...i dint go before. about 2pm, i went to sushi- king to take my lunch...then shop about few hours then drive back home d because scare the penang bridge will traffic jamp. so hate traffic jamp,just wasting my time only but fortunately that day dint face kinda problem...heheh...this is how i spent my Saturday....